Overcoming the Resistance to Change

Change is difficult for many of us, even though we may think we love it. In fact, I realized that while I have always enjoyed creating change for others (new projects, programs, initiatives), I am not big on having change in my own life. This resistance to change can be attributed to what Michael Bungay Stanier calls the "four horsemen of the status quo": inertia, overwhelm, loneliness, and slipperiness.

Inertia refers to the tendency of an object at rest to stay at rest. We often get comfortable where we are and find it challenging to initiate change. The energy required to drive change can seem daunting, leading us to stick with the status quo.

The feeling of overwhelm is a common response to change. Adding something new to our already long to-do lists can create anxiety and tension. We may not remove enough tasks from our list, resulting in a sense of being overwhelmed by the additional responsibilities.

Leading change can be a lonely experience. As we drive change, we may find ourselves out in front, with others initially showing support but ultimately dropping off. The difficulty of change can make it challenging to find a strong support system, leaving us feeling isolated.

Slipperiness refers to the tendency to revert to old habits and ways of doing things. Even when we manage to overcome inertia, overwhelm, and loneliness, the discipline required to sustain change long-term can waver. We may find ourselves sliding back into old routines and behaviors.

To overcome the resistance to change, we need to be proactive and have a plan in place. Instead of waiting for one of the four horsemen to appear and catch us off guard, we can – and should - take proactive action.
Recognize the signs of resistance, such as feeling overwhelmed or slipping back into old habits. When these triggers arise, have a plan in place to address them.

Identify an accountability partner or someone you can reach out to when you're feeling overwhelmed or lonely. Having someone to lean on during challenging times can provide the encouragement and guidance needed to stay on track.

Regularly remind yourself of the goals you set when initiating the change. Reflect on why the change is worth it and how it aligns with your long-term aspirations. This reflection can reignite your motivation and determination.

Change is inevitable, and resistance to it is natural. However, by understanding the reasons behind our resistance and taking proactive measures, we can overcome the challenges that come with change. Don't wait for the resistance to catch you off guard; instead, be prepared and take action.

Only Action gets you closer to your dreams - do something that your future self will thank you for.

-Coach Rory Sheppard